You know you need to tell your children about your ovarian cancer diagnosis, but maybe you don't know where to start. What you tell your children and how you tell them will largely be based on their age. Have as honest and as open a discussion as you can, and let your children feel part of the treatment process. Acknowledge their feelings, and try to keep life as normal as possible.
The Conversation No Mother Wants to Have
After you start to come to grips with your diagnosis of ovarian cancer, you may feel that an even greater challenge lies ahead -- how to tell your children. It's an incredibly delicate issue, but one that can be handled well with a little planning beforehand. Although you may feel that your battle with ovarian cancer is one you have to fight alone, your entire family will be going through it with you, including your children. Knowing when to talk to them and how to do it is vital to not only your well-being, but theirs as well.
When you became a mom, part of the job description included protecting your children. As a mother, it's instinctive that you want to protect your children from anything that might harm them. In some ways, battling cancer alone may seem easier to bear than having to tell your children you have it.
But try to take a deep breath -- although it seems overwhelming to tell your children, keeping it simple and honest can help you all grow stronger as a family. Remember, you are a role model for your children. If you talk to them honestly and calmly, they will reflect this in dealing with your illness: The calmer you are, the less frightened they will be.
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